Things To Know About The GRAD Theory. (With comments added below to address today’s crisis of Donald Trump in office. (See, red highlighted areas below for discussion August 28, 2017)
Most importantly: What is our definition of an addiction (the non-ingested type)?
* GRAD, definition of an addiction (i.e. non-ingested chemical addiction: Any emotion, behavior, attitude or physical response that is used as a substitute for experiencing emotional/spiritual connection or the pain of emotional disconnection. (Notice how closely aligned this definition is to cell phone and internet addiction to better understand its application.)
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- You are important;
- Our relationships to one another are important;
- Saving our planet is important;
- Survivor/Addict "addictions" interfere with these objectives.
In today’s crisis of Donald Trump in office, this means (see, red highlighted areas below for discussion) August 28, 2017:
- You recognize that the Democratic System, as set forth in the Constitution of the United States, having its three branches; the Legislative (i.e. Congress), the Executive (i.e. the Presidential) and the Judicial (i.e. the Courts), all of which are, at their base, generated by the people through elections, functions as a massive community; (In the following text, I will elaborate on this further, with a focus on the Power of One.)
- Communities, operating by the standards of democracy (i.e. a government governed, first and foremost, by majority-rule), will flush out dysfunction and seek its higher levels, by nature.
- Yes, we are in trouble. But our democratic systems will sustain us. Collectively the system is stronger than any one person.
- Yet, do not overlook the words of Margaret Meade --
“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”
- The one becomes the many with the proper intention.
(In other words, your best nature will, ultimately, seek out the best for you and those around you. This is human nature on its natural evolutionary path.)
(The origins of this theory date back to the late 1960s and the work of Martin G. Groder, M.D. as prison psychiatrist at Marion Federal Penetentiery (1967 -- 1972), built to replace Alacatraz. Most relevant here is Marty's Total Learning Environment (TLE) concept, now carried forth in many of the principles and practices of the Exceptional Community/Small "Zones of Peace" Model of the New Horizons Support Network, Inc.)
(This means, the best things you can do now to help America through this present crisis is keep yourself moving forward to: 1. Be your best; 2. Foster the best in all your close relationships; 3. Carry forth these practices into your community; 4. Donald Trump is all about seeing others as enemies and, with this, perspective, creating conflict and dissension every where he touches. Your job is to move beyond enemy thinking and its corresponding actions. Look for me to be discussing this element in future articles, radio shows and in New Horizons new storytelling collection.)
Salient features of the GRAD theory and its applications
However the GRAD theory does not stop at the level of the personality. TA incorporates all that the individual is and does with how the individual interacts with the world around her or him; understanding human interactions being as much an intrinsic part of the whole body of TA theory as are the components; the various aspects of the individual.
Tenets of the GRAD theory
- Most adults who would identify themselves as “survivors” have an almost inherent inclination to develop non-ingested chemical addictions (i.e. relationship and personality addictions), emerging out of an inborn survival component of their genetic makeup*1. Assess your Survivor/Addict Profile here and/or your Survivor/Addict behavior patterns here;
- The influence of this innate survival component is such that, given the proper conditions, it will shape any given individual, psychologically, physiologically and spiritually, often to its detriment into the Dark Side Warrior/Rebellious Survivor Inner Child (RSC) or Rebellious Child (RC) in the original TA literature), if not properly rechanneled onto healthy pathways of expression*2;
- Initially activated, in all likelihood, yet still unproven to date, this primal survival instinct becomes intrinsically interwoven with the individual’s biology, psychology and spirituality, during the trauma of birth and the wrenching separation from mother at this time, creating "an indelible wound"*3;
- This instinctive re-activity of the primitive and primal personality component that seeds our personality is experienced as survival-based by the, as yet, undeveloped infant who devises reactive physical and psychological responses to what is experienced as life-threatening emotional and physical pain.
- Out of this survival-based defense against the pain of separation develops an almost indelible wound which might be identified as an "Addiction Core," a psychic injury that will remain, for as long as a lifetime, as the very source of all relationship and personality addictions (i.e. survival-driven behaviors, attitudes, feelings and many physical ailments)
- Like a scar, this wound or Addiction Core can often lie dormant until activated by other similar situations of loss, threat or abandonment and yet is responsible for the development, generation and perpetuation of all excessive survival-driven reactions. (Excessive meaning survival-driven reactions beyond immediate, genuine survival response needs to danger.)
- As early as adolescence and certainly in adulthood, we can access this Addiction Core and its manifestations, with guidance and supervision from skilled mentors or coaches, working to transform these symptoms of excess which can, most easily, be recognized in addictions; chemical and non-injested chemical addictions, survival-driven behaviors and rebellious, defiant, angry, controlling and/or withholding behaviors.
- The Addiction Core and its manifestations, especially those of the Rebellious Survivor Inner Child are responsible for the creation of a survival script that is the organizational framework for all addictions and related survival-driven behaviors*4.
- Appropriate and adequate therapeutice treatment of the Addiction Core, the RSC and the survival script can reverse these patterns. Meditation, relaxation into nature, body therapies, religion and other forms of spiritual discipline are extremely effective.
- However, most importantly and, possibly, most effective in healing and transforming these personal hallenges in today's world, can be the profound impact of the individual learning how to function collectively, along with personal health development (i.e. referred to by New Horizons as the "exceptional community" way of life as discussed metaphorically in the Bus Ride Story Adventure of Murat Yagan and New Horizons).
- In other words, be your best, do your best, join with the good guys around you to foster the best – and – trust and believe that this can be enough.
- (P.S. Here are some guidelines to help you ascertain what “best”: means, according to GRAD and our Beloved, now deceased Community Development Mentor, Murat Yagan.)
- This "almost inherent inclination," according to the author, Anastasia Rosen-Jones, apparently requires certain cultural contexts within which to develop. It has been demonstrated, therefore, according to the author's research, that indigenous cultures tend not to develop their communities or community members in this manner. (WMST, UMCP, 1985).
- In psychological terms, using the terminology of TA, we can locate this survival component in the Rebellious Child portion of the Child Ego State (Eric Berne, M.D., architect of TA located it in the “Little Fascist” and/or in the “antiscript” – see “What Do Say After You Say Hello?” by Berne);
- This is possibly humanity’s single greatest personal and collective challenge. It is the intent of this blog site to explicate this notion to the best of our capabilities.
- Our society and politics are built and sustained by our survival scripts and the underlying, individual and collective survival-driven behaviors, attitudes, feelings etc. that comprise these.