I have long admired the organizational underpinnings of Alcoholic Anonymous. This is so as my twenty-five years of doing
private practice psychotherapy centered on treating relationship and personality addictions. While these are addictions of the non-ingested variety, as opposed to the ingested (i.e. drugs and alcohol), full recovery from these addictions follows along most of the same lines. A particular focus in treating both is on the individual giving up ego-driven control.
The workings of the alternatives are complex to understand. In my three books, collected under the title "Anastasia’s Random House Trilogy," I have done a fairly decent job, especially in the first of the three,
Surviving Addictions, to explicate the dynamics of the non-ingested chemical addictions in the relatively easy to understand language of Transactional Analysis, my home base theory for my professional psychological work.
One of the areas lacking somewhat in that book, or at least insofar as I have been able to present it, as a result of
my losing eyesight, is the topic of the collusion between the aggressive addict and the passive addict.
Herein lies the essence of codependency. And herein lies a major piece of the phenomenon that is Donald Trump in office; the collusion of the aggressive (
power addicted) addict (i.e. Trump) and his adoring public (i.e. the
passive addict) or
those who are highly reactive to Trump’s brand of chaos (i.e. also, believe it, or not -- sometimes the media, depending on attitude, certainly often those addicted to the media/internet). Ask any long-term Al Anon member and they will, likely, understand the notion of
collusion with the addict in a heartbeat. It is the center of
personal derangement.
Now we are in a major crisis these days with Donald Trump in office as head of state. Noting the words of Charles Krauthammer, referencing “Trump Derangement Syndrome” in his article,
“The President Can’t Govern By Id,”Krauthammer comes right up on the dilemma running rampant throughout our country. He offers --
“What distinguishes Trump Derangement Syndrome is not just general hysteria about the subject, but additionally the inability to distinguish between legitimate policy differences on the one hand and signs of psychic pathology on the other.”
Ask yourself, can you distinguish between these two that Krauthammer points out? If not, you may not be allowing yourself to support Trump where he most needs you. This can be as destructive as pushing back against him, aggressively or passively.
To understand what may, at times appear to the untrained eye, one simple trouble going on with Trump; his inability to get his policies operative, needs to be viewed, I strongly hold, by paying heed to a philosophy that has built the, almost incomprehensible success of Alcoholics Anonymous, A success founded on
“principles before personalities. Trump supporters see this strength in him. Don't push them away, if you are on the opposing side with anger and reactivity. Rather lean in and be part of the team where warranted.
The American public, to weather the storm, we are now living in needs, needs more than any one thing I can see, to adopt this AA tenet. The goal, as in the Twelve Steps, is “recovery” of the United States of America, at its best, demanding that “we the people”
stop colluding with Trump. But also
stop fighting him, just because you may not like him or his acting out ways.
It is important to note here that passivity, reactivity and anger are all corresponding roles responding to the aggressive/power addicted addict. Each is based on some form of
“discounting.”
So be sure, whatever you choose to do minimizes passivity, anger and reactivity as much practicality as possible. In other words, do your best to stay calm, under the stress. Of course easier said than done in these times!
The three blog sites for which I write are designed to be linked with one another. Here is how to use them in this way.
All three of these sites have the principles of non-ingested chemical addiction recovery at their base, as developed originally by
Martin G. Groder, M.D. and expanded by
Marty and myself, as well as others that Marty mentored.
- Please read carefully what is posted here and on my other blog sites from here forth, if moving beyond the craziness of our current political crisis is your intent.
- Remember, pointing your finger at Donald Trump will only get you so far in handling these crazy times.
- You need, also, to get yourself out of the chaos, out of the reactivity and find ways in which to hold to your own center of values and ethics and think practically. From a New Horizons perspective, we hold that “life is with people.”
- That means "lean in" to others who are different, ethnically, from yourself or merely think differently than you.
- This means active grassroots involvement as much as you can manage, not just talk. And, also not fighting just to fight.
- All paths lead to one place, at their highest point; personal and collective transformation.
This is what we are offering here to help us all move “Beyond Political Craziness” and be able to survive – as well as we possibly can --- this challenging time.
