Exploring your Dark Side: The Adventure of a Lifetime: How Two Schools Of Thought On Emotions Divide Our Congress As Well As Our Most Intimate Relationships

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Ever wondered how a McDonnell or Barr or Marjorie whatever got to be like THAT!!

Or maybe you know others like THAT personally?

If your answer is "YES" to either or both above, what are YOU doing to help change the toxic dynamic?

As this blog (and the other two related) rolls out it's new directions, pre-book publication, circa 2022 (After publication we may again revise.) --- a major intent of all will be to help provide you with viable pathways for "transforming the dark side" yourself and in each and every venue you can hope to influence.

That's your job from here forth, if you are a follower of the blogs I write. If ever the idea of being a socia INFLUENCER, we'll be showing you how, on a one to one level -- over time.

That's what I/we "want" from you. That's what matters for me/us in providing the materials of this blog.

Let's start with the "why" behind what I write hete

The fact that there are two main schools of thought on emotions that might be considered central when trying to understand the divisiveness of our Congress -- might lead some of us to explore some new and improved options for approaching some of our near ceaseless deadlocked situations in that arena and right back into your backyard your living room -- and your bedroom.

Curious? Read on.

For an expanded discussion on how to and what to do we will return later. NH ZOP has plans in the making, our drop in the bucket strategies, now in progress.

Long time coming.

For now our objectives are still in the blueprint stage. Our focus directed to the notion that...

One school of thought holds that our emotions are essential guideposts for daily living. That's the perspective most apt to contribute to genuine problem solving, problem solving taking in human essentials at their most comprehensive.

Much like buying into the need for masking, social distancing and VACCINATIONS to fight off the spread of covid-19.

The other school of thought on emotions postures that emotions are bothersome aspects of humanity that must done away with as quickly as possible. The constituent denying mask mandates of Governor Ron DeSantis of Florida are an example of this.

Your concerns that your child might contract the covid-19 virus while attending school simply do not exist.

As many of us recognize, particularly adherents of the first school, all sorts of communication breakdowns and hostility are bred from this dissonance of perspective.

What might this mean? And how might the facts of the matter be reconciled?

In Transactional Analysis (TA) we call the circumstances that bring this divisiveness about DISCOUNTING, the process of minimizing or ignoring data that is relevant to an individual, a situation or the solving of a problem.

Gaslighting is one extreme example of this phenomenon called discounting. In this scenario, a conscious, determined effort to dismiss what another person's emotions and judgment hold to be true, is made with the intention of undermining the other's person's confidence and reliance on their own personal perceptions.

Most discounting is unconscious, however. The initiator, typically unaware of the process in motion. We all do this some of the time, even the most conscientious of us, devoted to our complete-as-possible devotion to fact finding.

Conversely, at its most extreme, discounting is the manifestation of psychosis.

More frequently, discountiing goes on behind the lying and denial we see today, prevalent in our culture, used, most destructivly as justification for violence, along with other deviousness.

"How do people get this way?" Groder puzzled over the prisoners he worked with in his early days at Marion Federal Penetentiery, leading to his establishing the Asklepeion Therapeutic Community there, eventally known to have the lowest recidivism rate in federal corrections, circa late 1960s.

If I were to ask him again, as I did back in the early '80s, "How do our politicians get this way?, he'd probably tell me again, as he did before --

"Convicts and High Leadership People" (HLP) often have the same basic personality structure. However the former, the convicts, play out the dramas of their lives with antisocial rules, grounded in ignoring only the most useful of information, while the former, the HLPs, play by commonly accepted social rules. In this way, they are rewarded by society.

Gains not necessarily made ethically. But so what? Eh?

When we incorporate our GRAD theory into the mix regarding emotions, we open the door to a deeper understanding of this phenomenon and the lethal, mortally wounding effect "discounting" can potentially have, especially as part of a larger pattern.

In my unpublished manuscripts, my Random House Trilog, I discuss these phenomena at length and how to reverse the negative patterns.

Conversely, how healthful, liberating, empowering, even personally and collectively transforming, are the wide-range of antithetical pathways for humanity available to us, once we know where to seek.

I want to explore this POWERFUL and PROFOUND notion with you on the two schools of emotions. And how utilizing the information we are offering can turn your life to the good, better, best!

My new fantasy/historical fiction book, Camelot Disrupted, Book One, Lost Hope Regained, due out in 2022???, will depict what I/we are suggesting that can help turn up the positive volume for you of your life's satisfaction and your relationships and tone down the negative, even way down!

In time, if you heed: your good sense, the wisdom of your own emotional intelligence and the wisdom, expertise and guidance I, personally, and we, the board members and active retreat center and community members of NH ZOP, have to offer through our programs, projects and extensive, personally-tailored, collection of road maps for the journey.

We'll have you soaring in no time, provided you do your part. And stay healthy!!