Site materials are based on the research, theories and clinical treatment and organizational development strategies of Martin G. Groder, M.D. and Anastasia Rosen-Jones (formerly Marcia E. Rosen). The Groder-Rosen formal name for the "Dark Side" is the "Survivor Addict".

Friday, November 13, 2015

Taking The “Bother” Out Of Community, Answer #5:3

See bottom posting of this linked article for new entry (5:3) on "Why bother with community...."
"Whoever is not 
aware of this force...."

The discussion in its entirety begins with this article.

Answer 5:3: Question 5,   Why “Bother” With Community When I ……..?, begins leading us in the direction of developing a preliminary understanding of the powerful and profound message and guidance the GRAD theory which, in its entirety, offers us as a basic map out of personal, societal and political dysfunctional into the Higher realms of human attainment. 
That is if we can interpret it accurately and learn to apply the tenets of its resolve.

What GRAD points us to is in the direction of understanding what might best be understood by, first, rearranging the emphasis of Question #5, Why “Bother” With Community When I ……..?

See this linked article for complete new entry (5:3) on "Why bother with community...." -- continued here.

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

Why Bother With Community When I ……..? Question #5

Questions and Answers About Groder-Rosen (GRAD) Theory Principles and Perspectives

The discussion in its entirety begins with this article.

Q and A: A work in progress

Question #5 from a reader: Why should I bother with a whole community of people when “I” ……..?

Answer 5:1: Any standard definition of “community” will immediately tell you that a community is a group of people. So our question might well be “why bother with a group of people, instead of just “ME”?

Another version might be “why bother with anyone else but “ME”?

The answer to the question (which ever version you choose) is so complex and multi-layered I barely know how to begin answering it. For starters, allow me to invite you to join Jack Slattery, my radio show co-host, and myself for our program this week titled – 


“Why Bother With Community When I ……..?
Thursday evening, November 12
6:30 p.m. 

We are going to talk over our topic from many angles that will help the question and the answer be addressed from countless directions. You can join us with your perspectives in our the after broadcast portion for an open-ended conversation forum. Maybe together we can nail down a simple and direct answer.

Sound like a bit of hedging on my part?

Well as I said the answer to our question here, “why bother with a community when “I”……, is not a simple one. Perhaps the best I can do is angle around an answer until maybe, some time, in the future I can nail down an answer in a few words. And, you will, by then, be able to come right up close to your own answer.

Maybe!  I hope so as this is a most important subject we are on here, exceptional community-building.

Answer #5:2: In the meantime, also, try these few key words or phrases I have come up with so far to help our conversation develop on “why bother…?”

Key words and phrases (for a start)
  • Destination for human survival at its most efficient – synergy;
  • Chaos versus order (Remember “9/11” was it self-centeredness that helped us survive in the earliest days of the tragedy? 
  • Pulling together is more fun;
  • Pulling together gets more rewards in the long run (pulling for yourself is good too);
  • Working together brings expanded ideas and options and more than twice the power
  • From Ben Franklin, "We must hang together or surely we will hang alone."
Well, as I've said before "Q and A is "A work in progress."

New Post: Friday, November 13

Answer 5:3: Question 5,   Why “Bother” With Community When I ……..?, begins leading us in the direction of developing a preliminary understanding of the powerful and profound message and guidance the GRAD theory which, in its entirety, offers us a basic map out of personal, societal and political dysfunctional into the Higher realms of human attainment. That is if we can interpret it accurately and learn to apply the tenets of its resolve.

What GRAD points us to is in the direction of understanding might best be understood by, first, rearranging the emphasis of Question #5, Why “Bother” With Community When I ……..?
"Whoever is not
aware of this ...."

Recall that “community” does not even enter the basic principles of GRAD until the very last point, #10.  Up to that step the preceding details focus on the individual. In particular the individual as being bound and/or excessively controlled by a biologically-based survival ingredient of the personality. 

(Re-visit this item to review the danger inherent in not paying attention to this personality component and its challenge.)

This inherent survival aspect of all humanity, bred in a culture such as ours as well as most others that currently inhabit planet earth, interacting with the culture within which it finds itself becomes inured to the basic, most essential human need -- connection.  As a result “wants,” typically of an excessive nature, substitute for this basic need. 

Since these wants are unable to satisfy the normal, natural need for human connection, the quest for higher and higher doses of the substitute can almost spiral out of control. So urgent does the sense of emptinesss become.   This urgent drive is no different in terms of conscious experience, if one remains conscious of it, as a sugar addiction or drug or alcohol addiction. Here we can include addictive use of the internet and cell phones.

So the rearranging of the emphasis in our Question #5, Why “Bother” With Community When I ……..? might be more aptly restated as –

Question #5, Revised:

How Does The Intrinsic Need For Community That Exists Naturally in Humans Become Twisted Into A “Bother” Rather Than An Inherent, Biological Necessity?

Steps you can take to begin to understand what I am saying here –
  • Give yourself the necessary time to take and score the Survivor/Addict Personality inventory;
  • Pay particular attention to your answers on Survivor/Addict Inventory questions #1, 5, 6, 10, 14, 23 and 25;
  • Be sure, then, to read or re-read the legend offered in the scoring section of the Survivor/Addict Inventory;
  • Next ask yourself if you still think that “community” is a “bother,” even sometimes;
  • And how and why your “yes” answer might reflect your personal aversion to “leaning in” to others so as to truly be “community” with them.
Comments regarding the application of answer/answers to Question #5, “Why “Bother” With Community When I ……..?” as it/they relate to the GRAD theory: 
  • Especially as an introvert I am well aware of the need for time outs from the force and fury that communal life can generate. So I don’t mean to imply that solitude etc. is a problem though it can be and certainly has sometimes been for me.
  • I am attempting to emphasize here an attitude of seeing others as “The Other” or the “Enemy” along with the other attributes and their influence of the personality characteristics spotlighted by the Survivor/Addict Personality inventory.
Note to readers: As you can, no doubt, begin to see the answer to Question #5, Why “Bother” With Community When I ……..? is complex and multi-faceted as indicated earlier.  Like all other parts of this unfolding discussion this is a work in progress.

Jack Slattery, my Possible Society In Motion Radio Show co-host, and myself made this question the topic of our conversation on last evening’s program. We ended up talking about many of the aspects of the topic and still were unable to zero in on its essence throughout the show.

There was a surprising culmination to our discussion, however, near the end of the show when Jack commented that the word “bother” had significance for our discussion that we had overlooked.  Check out our discussion on podcast – and – the surprise turnabout near the end when “bother” came to the fore.

Saturday, October 31, 2015

What Are The Building Blocks Of The Exceptional Community?: Question 4

Questions and Answers About Groder-Rosen (GRAD) Theory Principles and Perspectives

The discussion in its entirety begins with this article.

Q and A: A work in progress

Question #4 from a reader: Anastasia, are there some building blocks for the “Exceptional Community” that we can begin practicing right away?

Answer #4:  Definitely. In fact I have been laying these out for readers since I began writing (2010) for the first of my three blog sites, the New Horizons Small “Zones of Peace” Project blog

What I am about to put up, here, for your exploration, asap, will enable you, this very day with hints from that site, to go out in the world (or stay in, if it’s chilly where you are like it is here) and start “exceptional” community-building, after you catch on to even one or two principles and guidelines as I have explained them thus far.

Some of these you may already be applying just because your instincts have shown you the way to the “high” way!

If you have been following (or do now follow) my postings on these three sites; the New Horizons Small “Zones of Peace” Project blog, Anastasia The Storyteller, and this one, Exploring Your Dark Side, you may soon begin to see that many principles and hints are already displayed.

Couched in various discussions, I have also been offering my particular set of exceptional community building blocks on my two radio shows, The Possible Society In Motion Radio Show and Anastasia The Storyteller Radio Show, since their beginnings. (“Takeaway" questions are sometimes suggested at the tail end of these programs that may also suggest some applications of GRAD to you.)

Of course, these building blocks were not being presented in a systematic format up until now. However, now, through this site, I believe I am in a position to remedy this and use this site, my Dark Side Warrior site (my name for it) as the organizing center for that effort. 

I will begin by outlining four of the most important foundation pieces.  They are listed below. Then I will provide you with some working details on how to learn more about these by going to articles already previously written while I go on to figure out (because I don’t know yet) ways in which I can assist you online with the application of these.

Of course, if you really want my help and what I am offering here is not adequate for your eager interest in becoming an “exceptional community” activist right away, you can always contact me by email at: SuperSleuthDSW@aol.com or on my cell: 240.409.5347 where you will likely be asked to leave a message.

Good luck to all who wish to travel with me!

We are now at the beginning of an adventure of a lifetime!

Exceptional Community Foundation Building Block Principles
  • Lean In: No matter what, lean it toward others with an intent to be bridge builders of humanity at its best. (Of course, don't do this if you are in danger or if it would be unhealthy for some other reason. And, if you are introvert such as I am be sure to balance this with making ample space for your solitude or solitary activities);
  • Avoid debates: Strive to always find the path to dialogue. Debate separates and polarizes. Watch out for intellectualizing rather than connecting with others on a heart level;
  • Get yourself out of the “lower triangle”  (i.e. survival-driven behaviors and attitudes). The lower triangle is displayed in this posting as the second graphic on the page. Notice on that diagram that there is a triangle with the markings on the side indicating "survival consciousness." This is another angle to explore to apply this item.  I will discuss its intrpetation as we proceed.);
  • Strive to consistently behave by putting what Murat* called the “Spectrum Of Love” attributes into your regular daily activities. (In other words, act "as if" if you are yet unable to "be" the real deal.  
(* The best model I can suggest for now is that you imagine yourself on Murat's Bus Ride Story Adventure and how you might, in that setting, be inclined to handle yourself. We will get to this instruction later. For now, simply consider it as a formula to be learned.)

Wednesday, October 28, 2015

What Is An Exceptional Community?, Question #3

Questions and Answers About Groder-Rosen (GRAD) Theory Principles and Perspectives

This discussion in its entirety begins with this article.

Q and A: A work in progress 

Question #3:1 from a reader: Anastasia, you have given us an overview of some different types of communities. Still you seem to keep stressing that “the”  type of community that is most exemplary would be likely to have certain characteristics in common with the New Horizons “Exceptional Community Model.” Can you describe your “Exceptional Community” approach – and – additionally….
A small "zone of peace" can be anywhere.
Question #3:2 from a reader: … tell us what you see as the viability of sustainability of such communities.

Answer #3:1: In my manuscript in progress, “The Middle East Crisis In My Backyard” I describe New Horizons’ “Exceptional Community” as follows.

The following is excerpted from “The Middle East Crisis In My Backyard,” (a manuscript in progress).

Commonly held views of a “community” define it as “a social group of any size whose members reside in a specific locality, share government and are bound together by various interests, characteristics and values they hold in common.   

A definition of community that is more exceptional, however, holds that the most exemplary type of community has several other distinct characteristics. These qualities carry the normally-held view of a community forward into an extraordinary form; one that has the potential to deliberately elevate its members in such areas of human development as character development, cooperation, civility, conflict resolution and violence prevention. 

New Horizons has a model of this type. It is called the New Horizons “Exceptional Community Model.”  It may be a bit idealistic but its application is do-able while its sustainability can be acquired over time, once set in place.  New Horizons own version lasted for close to twenty years (1976 to 1998), succumbing to a wearing away only after I lost my eyesight.

One characteristic of the exceptional community is that the members are particularly like-minded regarding the necessity for resolving conflicts in ways that represent social justice in a superlative fashion. A second is that they function synergistically. The presence of these two attributes*; like-mindedness and synergy, separates the exceptional community from all other communities.  

To the extent that members not only share common values, interests and characteristics (i.e. like-mindedness) in a particular locality and under one government, but also consistently seek to function synergistically, they set themselves on a course of evolving. Evolving as a group can be the basis for producing an “exceptional community.” 

The exceptional community is a thriving, healthy organic system that makes every possible attempt to maintain harmony and peace. In the exceptional community, violence could, someday, even become obsolete because the conditions that foster violence become unnecessary. 

In today’s world the exceptional community is an important model for creating a “culture of prevention,” a significant deterrent to the proliferation of violence. (The Tunisian National Dialogue Quartet is an example of this.)

The Exceptional Community Model is an example of an intentional community approach.

Answer #3:2: Sustainability is, indeed, a challenge, as evidenced by the high rate of mortality of communities of this type; the intentional community variety. However, the impermanence factor need not be a constant deterrent if we remember the following:
  • Lasting cultural change is slow and accumulative. For example, many fought for the abolishment of slavery in this country as well as an instituting of voting rights for women before these came about; 
  • Social change, thus, is a long-term investment. For example, now, more than forty years after the widespread counter-culture movement in this country of the late 196os and early ‘70s, many of us who came of age in that era are watching our children and grandchildren – and – even great grandchildren incorporating our progressive ideals such as civil rights and women’s equality into their “ordinary” daily lives as though they were second nature to them;
  • In actuality we can pay attention to the words of Gandhi on the subject of creating world peace when he stated that to accomplish this “We do best to begin by carving out territories or zones of peace in our personal relations where violence and deceit won’t be used.”  
Brittany Wilson, the winner of a New Horizons’ essay contest stated it this way…
"I believe this quote (Gandhi’s) to mean metaphorically that if you are angry, you could find a quiet place in (your) mind. In reality, it could mean that if two friends live near each other, and there was a park that was close to both of them, they could call the park a zone of peace." 
To us at New Horizons, Brittany’s statement exemplifies that each and every one of us has the wherewithal to build small “zones of peace” and/or exceptional communities by reaching out not much farther than an arm’s length. Thus one might say the effort is ours for the making.

Notes on the New Horizons’ “Exceptional Community Model” approach.

Many types and varieties of communities exist today, especially in this day and age of the internet. Additionally, there are likely many types and varieties of even “exceptional communities.”  Those I have been able to find that have had a natural or organic emergence have, consistently, been of an indigenous nature, originating in native lands and circumstances. Other than these I have found intentional communities such as have grown up throughout the United States since its founding and, particularly, in the latter twentieth century.

To the extent these communities do, indeed, aspire to attain individual and collective transformation as does New Horizons, I know of very few and wish you well in finding them.  If and when you do, if you decide to participate in them, you will be, as I have been along with many others, likely to be changed for a lifetime. New Horizons has been known for close to forty years to have established communities of this nature.

By my describing the origins and operations of New Horizons’ “Exceptional Community Model” you may get a taste of one intended, created and sustained exceptional community. (The “old” New Horizons community ceased to operate in 1998 when I lost my eyesight. It is now in the process of intending to re-build.)

In general New Horizons as an exceptional community model derives from five main sources: 
These threads weave together in a unique fashion, making up the New Horizons’ “Exceptional Community Model,” a unique and complex community development and violence prevention approach that has been evolving since 1973. You can read of  the various principles that underlie the methodology by reading our three of our blog sites, integratively, and listening to our Possible Society In Motion Radio Show, as we broadcast it or on podcast. 

When you have done this background work, conscientiously, you are likely to still be in the dark as to how exactly our approach works, intent always on turning lead into gold in individuals and the collective. 

Then your real deal, Dark Side transformation work can begin to reach for the next levels of development with guidance such as I have available to provide or with someone else who has traveled the path and has come to know its intricacies.  

This aspect of the adventure; mentorship, coaching and guidance,  is essential as you will not and cannot find all the hiding places of your Dark Side on your own and the transformation of this entity, the Dark Side, is critical.  

Choose your guide carefully as relatively few are equipped to assist you with this discovery and transformation, systematically, as I have learned to be.  I credit my two mentors, Martin G. Groder, M.D. and Murat Yagan, with this edification of mine and, also, Ken Windes who taught me some of my most important skills.

Tuesday, October 27, 2015

Question #2: Are All “Communities” Alike?

Questions and Answers About Groder-Rosen (GRAD) Theory Principles and Perspectives

The discussion in its entirety begins with this article.

Q and A: A work in progress

Question from a reader: Anastasia when you speak of the importance of community, do you mean to say that all communities are alike or are you just certain “communities?

Overarching Answer #2:1: 

In some respects I put all communities under one heading as all, or almost all, will have certain characteristics in common.  These attributes include:
  • Communities existing as any collective of individuals, groups and certain sub-groups;
  • The gathering together of these people can be indicative of their sharing of certain common purposes such as establishing housing near water, transportation or schools, or as members of a church or club such as Rotary or the Lion’s Club’
  • Members of these communities share a like-mindedness for something, even if only one thing such as living on the same street or in the same  neighborhood.
Overarching Answer #2:2: 

Next, in my organizing system about likenesses and differences in community types, I begin to differentiate one community type from another by designating them as distinct merely by being naturally or organically formed, or intentionally organized.

The natural or organically formed community -- Meets the critera of an "ordinary community" as indicated below. Thus this type of community will naturally emerge out of geographical connectedness.

Community Types – Wikipedia -- Wikipedia has an extensive discussion on community types, including those of the internet.

Dysfunctional Community

Ordinary Community (as defined in the dictionary) -- Commonly held views of a “community” define it as “a social group of any size whose members reside in a specific locality, share government and are bound together by various interests, characteristics and values they hold in common.   


The intentionally formed community -- 


Exceptional Community -- A definition of community that is more exceptional, however, holds that a true, healthy-affirming community has several other distinct characteristics. These qualities carry the normally-held view of a community forward into an extraordinary form; New Horizons call this the exceptional community.  

One characteristic of the exceptional community is that the members are particularly like-minded regarding the necessity for resolving conflicts in ways that represent social justice in a superlative fashion. A second is that they function synergistically. The presence of these two attributes*; like-mindedness and synergy, separates the exceptional community from all other communities.  

To the extent that members not only share common values, interests and characteristics (i.e. like-mindedness) in a particular locality and under one government, but also consistently seek to function synergistically, they set themselves on a course of evolving. Evolving as a group can be the basis for producing an “exceptional community.” 

The exceptional community is a thriving, healthy system that makes every possible attempt to maintain harmony and peace. In the exceptional community, violence could, someday, even become obsolete because the conditions that foster violence become unnecessary. 
In today’s world the exceptional community is an important model for creating a “culture of prevention,” a significant deterrent to the proliferation of violence. (The Tunisian Dialogue Quartet is an example of this.)

The Exceptional Community Model is an example of an intentional community approach.

Monday, October 26, 2015

Friday, October 23, 2015

Question #1: What Makes "Community" So Important In The GRAD Paradigm?

Questions and Answers About Groder-Rosen (GRAD) Principles and Perspectives

The discussion in its entirety begins with this article.

Q and A: A work in progress

There are many angles from which to come in providing full answers to this question. I could, no doubt, write an entire book, at least, to address this one question. So this blog post is going to be a long, continuously ongoing one where I will accumulate many answers to the question, along with, hopefully, a good many comments and other related questions.

Answer #1: The Dark Side cannot hide, indefinitely, in a community, especially an “exceptional (human) one.” See my discussion on New Horizons’ “Exceptional Community” approach here.

For your reflection: If the internet is a world wide community, how well is Bill Cosby doing hiding in it?

Allow me to elaborate on this one question; "What Makes "Community" So Important In The GRAD Paradigm?" This one, alone, will be a time consuming endeavor. (My comments on Bill Cosby will need, therefore, to move aside here for now.) My answers to the main question will require deep consideration which will take me some time. 

Consider this one answer (#1) to be under construction as is my GRAD theory presentation in its totality.

Completed answer under construction.

Answer #1A (Posted October 26): The skills we need in order to sustain humanity through its darkest times such as war, extremes of climate change, earthquakes, famine, drought,  economic hardships are most naturally developed in learning to live cooperatively with one another. 

The Dark Side does not do this readily except in times of immediate crisis such as the 9/11 tragedy. Hope for improvement in this comes by developing the skills used, spontaneously initially. This development, however, typically, remains undeveloped as advancement generally demands discipline and commitment which people/the Dark Side repetoire typically disallows..

Comment regarding GRAD’s application of concept of "community" as essential : 

Nonetheless, as you will see as I am able to complete the GRAD theory outline of principles:

  • If individuals and groups will purposely choose to develop the necessary skills to live healthfully in communities, they would be able to, in the process, transform the lead of the Dark Side into gold of the Dark Side’s counterpart which I call the Compassionate Warrior.

  • The dysfunctional community could be considered to grow out of the end result of involved individuals not choosing to learn what they could, if they set their minds to it.

  • Therefore one might say (again as the completed GRAD theory outline will indicate) that “community” is of critical importance to the GRAD theory as it is the basic training camp for transforming the Dark Side as well as it is also the fruit of that labor.

Thursday, October 22, 2015

Questions and Answers About Groder-Rosen (GRAD) Principles and Perspectives

This discussion in its entirety begins with this article.

Q and A: A work in progress

Since I am blessed to have an extensive network of support to help me keep on track with everything I do, now, in life, I asked members of that support network to give me feedback on my introductory piece to the Groder-Rosen (GRAD) theory.

That brought me to see, surprisingly, that simply elucidating all “I” know about the various points I offered could, in actuality, become another whole book. I hadn’t thought of that on my own. GRAD seemed so self-explanatory to me. That can happen when you are sleeping for years with someone, or a theory -- and -- when you are intent on going it alone!  You get to a place where you can't see the forest for the trees.

I used to be that way to a fault! OMG!

In fact, I found it a bit of a stretch, as a psychotherapist, to put myself in the shoes of the hundreds, if not thousands, of people, especially women, I counseled in my twenty-five years in private practice, who were co-dependent. I, personally, was almost totally anti-dependent (a true solo flyer am I)!

The book that some of my supporters saw emerging from that brief introduction, offered yesterday, to the best of my knowledge, would be a book I have no interest in writing! I think it would be a most boring exercise for me. Could the right person/co-author change my mind?

I have no idea!

What I am, now, going to do instead is take advantage of this very intriguing online creation, the blog site, to use the format to expand upon what my friends/supporters are suggesting is a mere introduction (one friend called it a” teaser”) in an attempt to expound upon my own original thinking on various aspects of that piece.

Expect this endeavor to follow in the form of “Questions and Answers.”  Some of the questions will derive from my own conjectures. Others will originate with questions and/or comments from others. I hope my format for the effort will provide reading comfort and contemplation for you, the reader.

The Interactive Side of “Questions and Answers”

Over time we at New Horizons have discovered through reader comments that our blog sites do not seem to take comments readily.  A workable alternative has been derived; if posting a comment, is troublesome for you, you can send me your comment, directly, and I will post it myself if you write me at: SuperSleuthDSW@aol.com.

This being said, there is no reason that you, the visitor to this site, if inspired to converse with me about the principles, philosophies and so forth, should hold back from doing so. As I indicated above, simply send your comments and questions to me in an email at: SuperSleuthDSW@aol.com. I will post your comments/questions etc., personally, and our dialogue can thus commence and move forward with a bit of an online “community” discussion.

You can also bring your thoughts, ideas and so forth to the Coffee House Conversations by Conference Call forum that Jack Slattery, my Possible Society In Motion Radio Show co-host, and myself host every other Thursday evening. Details here.

More on “Questions and Answers” on the way.

Tuesday, October 20, 2015

Coming Up Next: The Groder-Rosen Theory of Almost "Everything" Human (GRAD)

Introducing the Groder-Rosen Addiction Development Theory (GRAD)
(Originally the Survivor Addiction Development Theory (SAD) 

I have been finding it no small undertaking to translate a series of three books (still unpublished), written under contract to Random House (1988 and 1998) into an online blog format. However, the content the series covers is too important to hold back. 

It was so when the series was sold initially. It is even more so today. So an online version seems necessary, at least for now. 

Most important of the content, as I see it, are the detailed formulae the series offers for individual and collective betterment. The basic formulae provide principles that are fundamentals for model communities to serve, not only in ordinary ways, but also as learning laboratories for personal and collective transformation.

Certainly this is a rather utopian dream, most appealing, no doubt, to idealists like me. Yet at this point in time, on the heels of the award of this year’s Nobel Peace Prize to the Tunisian National Dialogue Quartet, I am inspired to put some of my top priority time and energy into another round of efforts to share the teachings passed on to me, in what I now hold to be a sacred trust, that they might be known and utilized.

Perhaps our time has come!

At the outset of this endeavor, begun last November, the effort to translate the body of knowledge developed originally by my mentor, Martin G. Groder M.D.  (1939- 2007), then researched, expanded and finally written up by myself in my three unpublished books on the subject seemed to be a worthy one. In fact, when I began this task almost a year ago, I thought the endeavor might even offer some refreshing ways and means to present what possibly had grown a bit staid as the “trilogy” sat on my shelves these past years. 

Then I began finding innumerable obstacles that took on an almost daunting quality for me. This accounts for the scantiness in the number and irregularity of my blog posts here.

Not the least of these challenges has been that Groder, in his devotion to the elegant body of theory known as Transactional Analysis (TA) and based upon it, endeavored to create the ultimate theory of the universe on how to bring the world out of its darkness into its ultimate best, if it would only see the Light. This intent on Groder’s part combined with his yearning to be known as one of, if not the, most brilliant men (people???) in his field to lead the way to such a grand destination. 

I admit to being, not only respectful and admiring of Groder’s conception, originally named the Survivor Addiction Development theory (SAD) and later the Groder-Rosen Addiction Development theory (GRAD), but one who could see the potential for its application and eventual success, if enough people would embrace and utilize it as a discipline. I was, without reservation, committed to go as far as I could with the venture. That, still, was an ambitious vision. 

Maybe the 100th Monkey Effect would thus be proven valid here in this instance. If not, so what, I, personally, would have learned to live as beautiful a life as possible, as I believed one should.

However, the “if” has had so many challenges and obstacles built into it that the vision alone could be daunting, if not adjusted for reality.  With this, I believe, I have done well.

On the up side of my challenges is that one thinking construct, in particular, is central to the message I took from Groder’s guidance and already appears to be gaining credibility. The awarding of the Nobel Peace Prize to the Tunisian National Dialogue Quartet dranatically shows us that it just might be possible, even worldwide, for people to begin recognizing, respecting and acting upon the notion that --
"Communities of people working together for the good of the whole can generate enormous change for each as well as the group."
Groder made this teaching tangible in his role as one of the first prison psychiatrists at Marion Federal Penetentiary. As far back as the late 1960s (which I will write more of later) with his efforts to create a viable counterculture, within the prison soon after it opened, replacing Alcatraz as they most maximum security prison in our country. His notable contribution in this arena remains as a remarkable attainment even today.

In my advancement of Groder's theories and organziational strategies for the collective "rehabilitation" of individuals within a group, altering the group as well, I eventually blended his theories with certain methodologies, garnered from my second important teacher, New Horizons’ Beloved community development mentor, Murat Yagan. This expansion of GRAD has now given me an enhanced map and a methodology that I offer you as one that is almost fail safe in delineating how and where to travel for both personal and collective betterment, if that is what you truly want. 

The map is almost as golden as the "egg" I got from Marty. If you can interpret it, it can serve as your own personal TripTik to destination "awe," a place I hold to be attainable, if one puts forth the effort and discipline.

If you cannot make the sense of it that you need and are still intrigued, ask me. I will be your guide, if appropriate.

With all this in mind, along with the inspiration I am taking now from this recent Nobel Peace Prize award – and – the joy, fulfillment and encouragement through recent events I am involved in locally, affirming my ideals almost daily, I am prompted to now be ready again to offer one more round of the wisdom Groder handed off to me.

This is all quite a mind full (and mouthful) for me to present to you. But I am intent on doing my level best with it for this intent. 

Thus I now invite you to, once again, begin exploring this site, as well as your own Dark Side. Our personal and shared growth beckons us to seek out this “the adventure of a lifetime” and a best possible society.

More on the way.

Thursday, July 23, 2015

Secrets of The Serene Survivor

The pathway out of Survivor/Addict living and the ascent to "Awe."

Have I got you wondering, yet, what the healthy alternative to the Adrenalin Addicted Survivor/Addict looks and acts like? I certainly hope so. 

A baseline profile to guide your understanding of what I call the "Serene Survivor," the antithesis of the Dark Side Warrior or Survivor/Addict is underway here now. I hope to have this inventory up and completed for your perusal shortly.  In the meantime, allow yourself to indulge your curiosity by taking the short quiz that follows.

I will be back online here with details and explanations to help you understand and begin applying the implications intended as rapidly as I can. I regret I have been unable to bring you updates for this site for as long as its been; five months already. But I have been very tied up and distracted from this endeavor doing great things in the world, as best I can.

Read stories of my adventures over the past few months at: Anastasia The Storyteller blog site and the New Horizons Small "Zones of Peace" Project blog site. And treat yourself to listening to the podcasts of my Possible Society In Motion Radio Show, co-hosted with Jack Slattery for beautiful stories that complement the blog stories.

Are you a Serene Survivor?[1]

The following inventory is excerpted from Surviving (Adrenalin) Addictions. Copyrighted and courtesy of Anastasia Rosen-Jones, formerly Marcia E. Rosen.


Answer each of the following ten questions with a Yes or No answer.
  1. Do you have one or more of the same friends you had in grade school?   
  2. Do you consider yourself loyal to old friends, family, old institutions (church, etc.)?      
  3. Is intimacy fulfilling and long lasting for you with the same people?
  4. Do you have three or more close relationships?
  5. Do you resolve conflicts with those with whom you are close? 
  6.  Have you ever mourned or grieved the loss of a loved one (person, place, animal, situation etc.) until you were fully resolved with the loss and able to let it go? 
  7.  Do you feel accepting of yourself and the life you have lived so far?  
  8.  Do you consider yourself caring and responsive to your family and friends? 
  9.  Do you consider yourself to NOT have any enemies? 
  10. Do you find a stable, secure environment to be comfortable for you?     
Once you have completed this quiz, add up your score.
Your score today: ____


[1] (Copyright, Marcia E. Rosen, 1985, WMST Study, University of Maryland, College Park. Originally titled: “Are You A Contented Survivor?”

Wednesday, February 18, 2015

From “Awful” to “Awe” And All Points Between

Maps, guide books, personal and shared stories (lots of storytelling) online and face-to-face interactions; support and guidance, personal mentoring, hand holding, encouraging words, words of wisdom from those who have traveled before us. These are what it takes and more to get from wherever one is that might be called “awful” (or even ordinary) to “awe.”

I kid you not the journey is perilous. Only the truly determined need apply. The climb to the top of Mt. Everest is metaphorically its kin as is the struggle of the butterfly to leave its cocoon.


To assist your climb, today I want to bring the main map of the journey to your attention. I introduced it to you, originally, in Chapter One, Part 2: Challenges.

There are two versions.  The first I am offering is a modification of the BIG ONE, Murat’s Chart Of Ascension.  The version below is my simplified version of the BIG ONE.  I will save that one until we are further along on our “adventure of a lifetime” travels here.

If you see the BIG ONE too soon you might dismiss it as too “airy fairy” or religious which it is not. As I know it, it is just common sense if you are sensitive enough to see the ultra-subtleties of life energies and/or scientifically-oriented enough to see that science and mysticism must at their outer edges just simply merge.

For now this first version will do.

For starters, allow me to, again, bring your attention to the following diagram/map that when understood and followed will give you a marked path to follow from “awful” which equals living the life of a “survivor/addict” to “awe,” the way I call the Compassionate Warrior way.

Notice on the chart below that there is a triangle shape on the lower part and a straight line rising from it. Ideally you would want your way of life to be on that straight line, not in the "lower triangle." Keeping that in mind is one of the best guidelines I can offer you.


Step Number One Guideline For The Adventure of A Lifetime: Everything you will find on this site and the other New Horizons’ sponsored sites, referring to the Dark Side, the Dark Side Warrior and the Survivor/Addict are about a way of life that is driven by survival imperatives, placing you in the “lower triangle."

Survival driven urgency is generally more illusory than authentic.  Lookout for “urgencies” as you travel on this trail. Urgencies and “excitement” are like drugs that will keep you lower triangle bound.

Some of the ways I have given you suggestions about how to identify these in yourself  are found in these –

Follow the guide posts and you will find you are truly on the adventure of a lifetime. 

Let me know  if I/we can assist you on it.

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Destination “Awe” – That’s Where We Are Heading

No doubt about it, Exploring Your Dark Side: The Adventure Of A Lifetime (the blog and the books), is my life’s work as well as incorporating the life’s work of many other wise and wonderful people. And, without doubt it has a very specific destination in mind. So it seems fit for me to be as explicit as I can in describing our destination to you.

Our Beloved Murat Yagan, did his utmost to lay out the map and the destination as best he could in the near one hundred years he was with us on this earth plane. When he departed he left behind as much as he was able in written form and a world full of acolytes, aspiring to pass on to others the teachings they received from him.

My earlier mentor, Martin G. Groder M.D., did the same though his teachings are sparse when they come down to the written word. This site endeavors to remedy that deficiency as best I am able. For me – and – all that the New Horizons Support Network, Inc. embodies the teachings of both of these men, incorporated with who and what I have become, are offered on these sites with supreme devotion. 

Three New Horizons’ sponsored blog sites have been created to summarize and encapsulate all of this. 
And, two online radio shows.
Each of these has pieces of the puzzle – and – so do you. We are on journey to our highest attainment. Each individual adventure is unique and different. I/We wish you the best on yours and are available to assist in guiding you if you need me/us.

One small, yet grand beyond words piece I have for you today is to direct your attention to the New Horizons Small “Zones of Peace” Project site with the urging that you check out articles labeled “awe” or any reference to it. “Awe” comes as close as I can offer to describe what our destination looks/feels like when you get there.

Below you will find a list of identifying personal characteristics that may also assist you in measuring your progress; the difference between the Light and the Dark Sides. Clarity, love, joy and unity with all of life are words that might define the destination or state of being we are after. 

Optimally healthy in body, mind and spirit in one’s personal life as well as with all other life also come close. And – still I fall short in describing where we are headed. But you will know when you get there.


Also check out Murat’s Seven Ways To Knowledge to help affirm yourself  in knowing you are on your way even when you are not seemingly anywhere new at all. Yet it’s all part of the adventure. 

You will know when you get there! 

In a beautiful video of Murat’s life, produced not too long before his passing he spoke of knowing that a “rose” smelled of God.

I wish you a similar knowing for your arrival at Destination “Awe.”  

What else could it be but awesome!