Site materials are based on the research, theories and clinical treatment and organizational development strategies of Martin G. Groder, M.D. and Anastasia Rosen-Jones (formerly Marcia E. Rosen). The Groder-Rosen formal name for the "Dark Side" is the "Survivor Addict".

Wednesday, December 26, 2018

Meeting The Ghost Of My Sexual Harrasser, Power Abuser, Martin G. Groder, On Christmas Eve


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A poem of sorts, as I begin my Ethics Complaint healing, at long last, from sexual harassment and power abuse by Martin G. Groder. M.D.

Twas the night before Xmas and all through my house, not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse.

Meanwhile I, in my night shirt, had a new book to read. 

It had arrived, just in time, for curling up with a need – 

-- for a good???? book on this cold, wintery eve.

Whilst I awaited Santa, his eight tiny reindeer and sleigh, a tale of misdeeds revealed had arrived in the mail.

Settling in, as I did, I with this new book of mine, a voice from beyond called out, requesting some time.

“Marcia,” said he, using my birth name, as he’d done in the past –

“I’ve come to settle up harm and damages done you by me.

I’m here to give what you'd asked, if you’ll allow.  

From my place above (And, yes, that’s where I’ve landed. Are you surprised?)

Free of my customary revenge-taking, I’m here to offer what I resisted before: compassionate, respectful dialogue, conversation, healing and reconciliation.

How else had you thought to resolve an ethics complaint against me, for the harm I did you, with a man who’s deceased,” he asked.

“Uh, oh, said I, what have we here?”

Truly the defection of our colleagues (the International Transactional Analysis Association and its Ethics Committee) had ended up doing more harm than good –

-- adding to the heavy doses of malice you'd already inflicted," I answered back.

Should I dare risk another attempt at healing attempts beyond my,own means, I queried

Take another chance at telling my tale only to pay an exorbitant price  for breaking my silence, wanting only to be listened to, as a first step toward the peace and ease I seek?

Certainly, I've given this quandary I’ve been in some thought, on many an occasion, these twelve months past.

Almost begging the Ethics Committee of the ITAA to do their rightful duty, as laid out in their official Ethics and Professional Practices guidelines and rules.

To no avail.

Of course, I naively expected they would carry through the mandate they had.

But as we already know, they failed miserably, betraying my long-held trust.

And, as we saw, their minimal efforts did not last.

Now lo and behold, am I to revisit the harm I’ve endured, based on what you offer me now, at this late date? 

Pondering this turn of events, I wondered "What should I do with this apparition, presenting itself here as the ghost Martin G. Groder, the ghost of the man who used his power and authority over me to cause long-lasting, still enduring, harm?

Pointing out he had left behind, upon his demise,  a completed written testimony on his Dark Side Warrior, his ghosts of the past, would I not, now, give him a chance?

Asserting that, in true Compassionate Warrior mode, before he left, he had cleaned up his act, wanting nothing more, now from me, but to help my resolve.

Read carefully this missive, Winning At Love: The Alpha Males Guidebook To Relationship Success, said he, implying, with an all too familiar certainty, that it was his doing, from the other side, that had sent me that book, delivered perfectly on time, the very same day I dared reveal, publicly, his harmful behaviors of me.

So here was the ghost of himself, come to get on my back and haunt me for going public, announcing to an unfiltered audience, his dark deeds of the past, if I would not give him a chance to do right by me now.

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Here in this tome, co-authored by Pat Webster, Ph.D, was the singular text that would lend Marty a voice to set the record straight, for his part, as I do mine, to call out his Dark Side.

What to do? What to do?

Pondering still, I sat down to read.

Dialogue, acknowledge, down on bended knee, with remorse, when and where guilty of malice, as he had, indeed been.

Amends for harm done is the only true way, said I.

So here's what I can do, I will publicly complain about you, Marty, as is my right, said I, as  I sat down to read, on Christmas Eve, words from the grave and beyond.

So I can stop carrying the cost of my quiet, stored up for nearly thirty years, since the final days of your revenge on me for my rebuffs of you, which, in truth, I am still paying.

That is my pledge to me, as well as to others, especially women, who have walked in shoes like mine.

However, using words from your book, as I quote and interpret them, I will try to do my best to give you sound bytes and data space to share through this last major publication of yours, some of your thoughts and lessons learned to round off the process.

My goodness, what an adventure this is already starting out to be!

More to come.

Monday, December 24, 2018

The Dark Side Warrior In My Backyard: A Commentary By Anastasia


For more than a year, followers, I have been dealing with a #MeToo-type Ethics Complaint, related to sexual harassment, emotional and power-over abuse of me by a former mentor.

You can read about this adventure of mine on my Anastasia The Storyteller blog site and also hear related online radio shows on some of the surrounding chaos the ordeal created for me. The blog site has several collections, having to do with this.  You can find them under –

Most significantly I wrapped up the one year ordeal by publicly revealing, for the very first time, who my abuser had been.  For many reasons, some of them quite apt, others, perhaps, a bit suspect, I had chosen to not name him up until now.

Nonetheless, over this past week-end, I finally did go public on two of my radio show broadcasts –

Now that I have let that cat out of the bag, big changes will be coming in my life, many of which will be reflected on this site for reasons that will be quite obvious in a moment –

My abuser was Martin G. Groder, M.D.


Marty -- whose mentoring and guidance provided me the basis for my professional development of the theories, upon which this site and countless books and articles of my writings, clinical and social justice strategies would come to be, in other words, the foundation of almost everything I have become and what I pass on to others.


As you might imagine, the steps I have taken to reconcile this situation, with myself and those who knew and loved Marty, in spite of his dark side, have been both liberating and confusing for me. I expect that to continue for a time, yet, until I can come to terms with all that has occurred for me.


Should be an interesting “adventure of a lifetime” for me, dontcha think?


And for this site, as well as myself, as some of my adventures will be playing out here. 


So, on behalf of my liberation, as well as my confusion – 
I now name the Dark Side Warrior in my backyard to be Martin G. Groder, M.D., deceased in 2007.


A man who was not only dark and hurtful in ways, but whose brilliance as a clinician, business consultant and theoretician leave behind a profound legacy which I will now be able to discuss on this site, from my perspective.


With both sides, the Dark and the Light, showing, now that the cat who was also my golden goose is out of the bag!  


Liberation and confusion!


Sunday, April 1, 2018

“No Not Me!” #Metoo And The Issue Of Male Resistance

Announcing!

New Horizons Beyond Gender Tyranny: Lessons In Learning
To be posted on this site on a semi-regular basis. 

On my Anastasia The Storyteller Radio Show yesterday I introduced the topic of “No Not Me!” The #Metoo  Movement And The Issue Of Male Resistance.” 

The topic is so BIG and BROAD, HIGH AND DEEP that today I am instituting a whole new series for this site; the topic of “No not me!” This will be the male track of where we (New Horizons and myself) are heading now to make our contribution, with Beyond Gender Tyranny to be our destination! Full and complete!

Look for my postings on a semi-regular basis here!  

The opportunity I/we (at New Horizons) have been needing, in order to offer New Horizons' very best, top of the line resources, has now arrived in the form of the gift of the Harvey Weinstein/Hollywood scandals and their reverberating aftermath. These situations open up a clear window to viewing many aspects of our society's social and political dynamics that have, heretofore, been hidden.

Of course!  The hidden aspect is what is so profound. 

Now revealed these elements of dysfunction in our society leave us with many new opportunities to better ourselves. At the top of the list we are now offered a renewed opening for examining what truly constitutes be a winner and what makes a loser.

Check out my discussion on Harvey Weinstein as characteristic  of a loser. And place that up against what I/we are suggesting genuine winners do differently.

These contrasting ways of being, when closely examined, allow us to consider the choices we make in living our lives, sometimes in small ways, sometimes in ways that have enormous consequences.

When closely investigated from a perspective of what each one of us can learn from these scandals, not just from pointing a finger at those in the limelight, but instead pointing that finger back at ourselves, these incidents offer us much of what we need, now, to help us reach for whole new level of humanity. 

Long time coming, if we take up the opportunity! The resounding call of the gifts these occurences have left in their wake is simply too loud, too demanding and too important to be silenced! We must use this call wisely.

I will soon be following up what I introduced yesterday on my radio show titled “No Not Me!” The #Metoo Movement And The Issue Of Male Resistance” with many new angles on the subject. I find myself, personally, edified by the discussion I had in doing the broadcast.

I am going to keep on, for a good while, contemplating what I learned and be passing it on to you, my readers. There is quite a discussion pending now from that show.

My first step is to “officially” proclaim my various new series, broadcast/podcast and blogs on all three sites for which I write (and more), to be more carefully aligned than ever in the area of what I (and “WE” at New Horizons) can now offer to our heavily challenged social and political environment, addressing, not only the issue of male resistance, but what women, including myself, of course, need to develop skill at managing, for our wholeness and health. 

The female track of this topic will head off with a forthcoming series of shows – and – related blog articles, at various times, on all three of the sites for which I write, under the subject heading (or some abbreviated labeling)   

The Role Of Woman In The Face Of Resistance

The radio show I did yesterday was my first, extended opportunity to publicly interview and discuss this most critical topic of “No, Not Me": The #Metoo Movement And The Issue Of Male Resistance” with a “willing” male. And, thus, to my own satisfaction, begin to have the opportunity to have the in depth experience of starting to truly learn what New Horizons and myself anticipate will be discovered from our new “Beyond Gender Tyranny Study of Male Attitudes.”

It was an awesome experience for me, yesterday, to do that show with my friend, Dennis Fischer. He taught me much in just being present to discuss the topic, as I presented it. 

Give yourself an interesting experience by listening to that show. And be sure to write me and let me know if you were able to get even a hint about why the event of my having Dennis on that show was so inspiring for me. So BIG and BROAD, HIGH AND DEEP!

My guess is you won’t get it! Or much of the “IT” I am trying to tell you about.

That’s ok. That’s why I’m here to guide you in cutting through the brush on the adventure of a lifetime! I want to see each and every man and woman head for that awesome destination that allows us to celebrate our best as humans and not sink into the chaos and darkness presently surrounding the #Metoo movement.

On my end, nonetheless, I got a rich set of takeaways from that show yesterday. 

These provided me a gateway, from where I sit now, writing only briefly to get a few thoughts off my chest, on this rather cloudy Easter morning, that are helping me realize that the climb we must, now, make to get to that wondrous place I call the peak of the Mountain of Awe will be as daunting as any formerly climbed!

However, from where I stand today, I can see the summit!

And, know that, for myself, that’s where I’m heading!

Will you join me on the climb

Will you meet me on the trek to the mountaintop where we will be able to join in celebrating our efforts?

I hope so!

Get ready, get set, go -- men and women, if moving beyond gender tyranny is your intent.

This will be a battle for life and death! (Trust me, I know firsthand, as some of you other women might also know!) And one you will not easily be able to turn your backs upon.

That’s why I call this undertaking the “adventure of a lifetime,” demanding, first and foremost that you “explore your dark side” -- men and women!

In it lies your liberation, your freedom; your personal transformation! Moving beyond gender tyranny is it’s impetus!

More to come!

Note to reader: Hey, guys, I realize there is a lot of metaphor and mystery to what I am writing here.  I would love to know which of you – and – what you are able to decipher of it all.

Write and let me know at: mountainwomanrj@aol.com, the new email account I have now set up for the journey of moving “beyond gender tyranny.”